IT’S over one year since I got married and have been trying to get pregnant.So far, there’s no chance of that happening. I had an abortion three years ago and I’m worried that there’s something wrong. I’ve read about the best time to conceive, yet we’ve had no success. I go to the bathroom straight after having sex. Does this affect my chances of getting pregnant? I’m so scared that I won’t be able to have children.
Tomiwa, by e-mail.
Your earlier pregnancy has confirmed your fertility. A woman’s ability to bear children is only rarely affected by an abortion these days. Unfortunately,
this fear rears its ugly head when another child takes time to come along. Your anxiety is based on guilt about a painful decision you made – and for which you feel you’re now being punished. Push this thought out of your mind.
The best and most enjoyable time for a couple to have sex when they’re trying to conceive is often. Making love will be more pleasurable if you relax and empty your bladder first. If you’ve not conceived after 12 months, you need to consult your doctor for tests. Infertility may also reflect deficiency in a man’s sperm. Meanwhile, focus not on making babies but on the thrill of sharing intimacy and love, and see how things develop.